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waren

鸟穿浮云云不惊,沙沉流水水尚清
2012-10-16
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My boss is a nice person honestly. We have best communication ever. I just don't understand suddenly why a person changes to saying things not reasonable. Jump from democracy to manipulate. It's hard to swallow.

I put my questions here, because I still care. If he is a bad person, I won't waste my time and effort, as it's not worth.
一个国内高中英语水平的英语,有什么资格跟老板斗?你离开老板了?快找下一个工作吧。
 

waren

鸟穿浮云云不惊,沙沉流水水尚清
2012-10-16
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20,240
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我以前和你一样任性、脾气大,不计后果
现在收敛了一些
不过,这边的老板确实操蛋,也不全是你的错
另外,不必后悔
凡事都是塞翁失马焉知非福
我每一次换工作,都工资大涨,工作环境好了许多
是的,唯一的缺点是推荐人会觉得你太挑剔
你不幸,我的在这里工作的家人的老板很nice。
 
楼主
楼主
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2017-02-22
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跟犹太人学习的机会真不多。一般他们都是在自己的圈子里找人。我前夫跟犹太人做徒弟,没几年就发达了,成为他们圈子的红人。当时如果不是因为一个熟人同学,人家根本不会收他做徒弟。在白人圈子里求拜师屡屡遭拒,后来通过同学关系求的学徒机会 。他那个同学,原来就是个法律助理、秘书之类的外行。做了几年助理就去考法学院,出来之后回老板那里实习。后来人家又培养提拔,她就成了圈内一等一的红人。要不是犹太人知恩图报,人家会培养中国人?业内白人十有八九都不会培养你,都是优先培养白人。犹太人对华人的救命恩情知恩图报,才不会跟你划清界限。我前夫的师傅老犹太人,每天早上四点起床,七十多岁还是精神抖擞。人家group messaging 就是把你当作自己团队。对外人来说是商业机密,对自己人来说是团队合作。你来一句:Your business is NOT my business! 想想如果是你亲爹,不给你气死啊?
Yes, I really appreciate the opportunity to learn. Previously he is very open for suggestions, we were able to discuss, and he made decision. It's just because I care about the business, so I would like to save my time to efficiently prioritize not to read unnecessary messages and use my time for something important.
He taught me a lot on EQ, and yes, I put my heart there to work. But I won't beg to learn things, I am not interested in higher position. What I care is "You trust me, and I trust you." " I do this for you today, it's because I know you will do that for me one day." It's not because of money or anything else.
 

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2015-11-17
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Yes, I really appreciate the opportunity to learn. Previously he is very open for suggestions, we were able to discuss, and he made decision. It's just because I care about the business, so I would like to save my time to efficiently prioritize not to read unnecessary messages and use my time for something important.
He taught me a lot on EQ, and yes, I put my heart there to work. But I won't beg to learn things, I am not interested in higher position. What I care is "You trust me, and I trust you." " I do this for you today, it's because I know you will do that for me one day." It's not because of money or anything else.
Did he ask you to read every single message? What kind of app do you use for group messaging? I believe every app have the function to put it on silence or ignore the message until you really need to date back and check out the details. If you have any disagreements just calm down and have some time for yourself. You don’t need to quit right away. Quitting is not the only solution.
 

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活跃园友
2015-11-17
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一个国内高中英语水平的英语,有什么资格跟老板斗?你离开老板了?快找下一个工作吧。
Her English is good enough to do her job and negotiate with her boss. I built up my business by this kind of language skill. It’s better to put myself out there and dare to practice than hiding and bragging.
 
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2017-02-22
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学会装傻,最近热播“知否知否”,明兰的为人处事方式很值得学习。练练就容易了。装傻是生存之道,每个人都有缺点,没有谁是完美的。什么都认真较真,很难生存。装傻是明哲保身。学会了装傻,再学习理解、换位思考。想想自己也会得罪人,如果你傲慢了一下,给人脸色,对方跟你绝交了,或者发疯、自杀,你会不会觉得没必要啊?难道你就不会说错话?做事说话处处完美,谁听了都高兴?如果你当上司,下属不配合,你就能做的圆润?特别是四面都有压力的时候.........
很多下属都不配合,我都得给檫屁股,前任的一个大invoice 打回10次,所以我需要时间做我的工作, 所以要求group messaging 无关的删掉我。我学不会装傻,如果真是这样,那我是真不care your business 了,这和我的价值观有冲突,我就更不会留下来了。
 

waren

鸟穿浮云云不惊,沙沉流水水尚清
2012-10-16
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Her English is good enough to do her job and negotiate with her boss. I built up my business by this kind of language skill. It’s better to put myself out there and dare to practice than hiding and bragging.
That's true. Her English is good enough to be a bookkeeper.
 
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2017-02-22
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Did he ask you to read every single message? What kind of app do you use for group messaging? I believe every app have the function to put it on silence or ignore the message until you really need to date back and check out the details. If you have any disagreements just calm down and have some time for yourself. You don’t need to quit right away. Quitting is not the only solution.
Text message, no app. I don't have to read every single message, but something important might bury in these irrelevant messages.
 

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活跃园友
2015-11-17
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很多下属都不配合,我都得给檫屁股,前任的一个大invoice 打回10次,所以我需要时间做我的工作, 所以要求group messaging 无关的删掉我。我学不会装傻,如果真是这样,那我是真不care your business 了,这和我的价值观有冲突,我就更不会留下来了。
我觉得这个真不算什么大事儿。我也做自己公司的财会,multi task, 还做市场、带孩子,两份学业、家务,一个group messaging 就能让你quit , 的确恐怕不胜任。我看不出跟价值观有什么关系?不用动不动上升到道德高度。你可以换一个方式沟通,如果你实在找不到方法handle group messaging? 礼貌的告诉你老板:“如果让我参与其中,会影响我的工作效率。” “I really want to help but if I continue to be involved in group messaging which is irrelevant to my work, it will affect my productivity and working quality. Is this what you want?” 有效的沟通方式,需要顾及到对方想要的结果。打个最简单的比方,如果老板让你加班,不停的让你加班,你要跟他说你的需要他可能不关心,但是如果你说再这样下去,会影响到工作质量和效率与对公司不利对他不利,他就会再三考虑了。在职场上个人合作,不要动不动讲道德,道德是最不管用的。要讲规则、怎样互动,怎样对对方有利,对方想要什么。
 

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活跃园友
2015-11-17
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Text message, no app. I don't have to read every single message, but something important might bury in these irrelevant messages.
So this is not mandatory but voluntary thing. You don’t need to put a huge burden on yourself by requesting yourself to read when there is nobody asked you to read the detail. If there is something relevant happened you can ask somebody relevant. Take it easy.
 

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活跃园友
2015-11-17
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Text message, no app. I don't have to read every single message, but something important might bury in these irrelevant messages.
Go to your settings and turn off notifications when you don’t want to be bothered at night.
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2017-02-22
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一个国内高中英语水平的英语,有什么资格跟老板斗?你离开老板了?快找下一个工作吧。
我就是英语为零的刚刚落地的清洁工,我也有跟老板斗的资格,和老板斗需要资格吗?

清洁工和CEO都只是一份career, 没有高低。
 
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2017-02-22
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I know how to mute my cellphone at night and I usually did. I just don't want to receive and go through messages as some important message I might miss.
 

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活跃园友
2015-11-17
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我就是英语为零的刚刚落地的清洁工,我也有跟老板斗的资格,和老板斗需要资格吗?

清洁工和CEO都只是一份career, 没有高低。
和老板斗不需要资格,可是和老板斗对你有利吗?人家都说神一样的对手不如猪一样的队友。你和老板一个团队,荣辱与共啊。老跳槽,你不累啊?
 

waren

鸟穿浮云云不惊,沙沉流水水尚清
2012-10-16
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我就是英语为零的刚刚落地的清洁工,我也有跟老板斗的资格,和老板斗需要资格吗?

清洁工和CEO都只是一份career, 没有高低。
You are absolutely correct on this.
 

sofia

我的生活我做主
2004-09-03
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看messages也是上班时间看,反正是有pay的,不知道你有什么可upset的,慢慢看就是了。