床上那点事，你在乎吗？

[精彩人生08]

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建议去婚姻方面的心理专家看看，也许有一些专业的方法可以帮到你们.

谢谢！我找找看，有没有合适的地方可咨询。

 

[陌路人]

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事情就这么个事情，问题就这么个问题。没了

 

[精彩人生08]

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本来事情很简单，我陪他一起看医生，可是他不愿意去，说这种事情看不好，说不定还越看越糟，我知道他肯定也有爱面子的成分，同时他又说是感情原因，所以我很伤心。

 

[就是玩]

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你陪同去看医生可就露馅了！你应该试验打扮好一点，性感几次，神秘几次。让他感觉后院要着火，看下他的反应。然后比较容易分析出来是有小三，身体不好，感情变亲情等。

 

[布什他哥]

回复: 床上那点事，你在乎吗？

本来事情很简单，我陪他一起看医生，可是他不愿意去，说这种事情看不好，说不定还越看越糟，我知道他肯定也有爱面子的成分，同时他又说是感情原因，所以我很伤心。

你老公1。有性功能鄣碍。或2。同性恋。

 

[happy2004lili]

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虎狼之年?
哈哈哈哈哈哈,开个玩笑.
LZ,你的成功,刚好反射出他的不成功,你的要求,刚好映射出他的退化.
有得有失,爱情一直都在.只是:还在不在你身边?不要骗自己什么爱情转化成亲情,爱就是爱,转什么转呀?
有些事,糊涂点也好.
说不定等你老了,退休了,儿子独立生活去了,你的工资也不高了,身体要求也不多了,自满和埋怨对你也没啥意义的时候,你老公依然在你身边--如释重负.

 

[精彩人生08]

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你老公1。有性功能鄣碍。或2。同性恋。

1的可能性比较大吧

 

[精彩人生08]

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虎狼之年?
哈哈哈哈哈哈,开个玩笑.
LZ,你的成功,刚好反射出他的不成功,你的要求,刚好映射出他的退化.
有得有失,爱情一直都在.只是:还在不在你身边?不要骗自己什么爱情转化成亲情,爱就是爱,转什么转呀?
有些事,糊涂点也好.
说不定等你老了,退休了,儿子独立生活去了,你的工资也不高了,身体要求也不多了,自满和埋怨对你也没啥意义的时候,你老公依然在你身边--如释重负.

我没他成功，我挣钱不如他，但是我的工作轻松稳定，而他付出的精力很多，事业比我成功。

 

[精彩人生08]

回复: 床上那点事，你在乎吗？

你陪同去看医生可就露馅了！你应该试验打扮好一点，性感几次，神秘几次。让他感觉后院要着火，看下他的反应。然后比较容易分析出来是有小三，身体不好，感情变亲情等。

他也担心的，上次大学同学聚会，一个以前追求我多年未果的大学同学想要我为他送行，老公有点紧张，过一阵子还说我梦里喊那个男同学的名字，很生气地说我感情出轨了，我不知道他是诈我还是真的。

 

[brianayu]

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典型的中国式夫妻，你也别太介意了。说不定他都觉得是老夫老妻了，已经从爱情升华到亲情了。你要他象老外那样一回家马上亲老婆我估计不太现实的。床上点事情我觉得一个月或者几个月一次那不是问题，重要的是你还是很爱他啊！就算他外面有女人了，别忘记了他还是你孩子的爸爸呢！我觉得你太空闲了，与其疑神疑鬼不如把经历放在培养孩子身上。有钱人的家庭女的都不用做家务的工人包了，孩子家庭老师包了。所以搞了夫妻两都没什么事情做了。想想那些普通家庭说不定他们还在为买个大电视机好呢还是存钱银行好呢商量呢！别吃饱了乱想，他做运动你也可以做的，把自己的精力花在运动上，你就不想床上那点事情了。做运动还对睡眠好。

 

[海格Z]

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Are you really too tired for sex?


By Trina Read, For The Calgary Herald
StoryPhotos ( 1 )


It's not usually the "being tired" that's stopping you from wanting sex.
Photograph by: Photos.com, Is "I'm too tired" the new"I've got a headache?"
Today's average couple is always on the go and busy, some-how getting through
each day even though stretched for time, overworked and tired. It's not
surprising that being tired gets in the way of having good sex on a regular
basis--but not in the way you might think.
It's a big couple conundrum and a question I often hear: "How can we want sex
when we're always so tired?"
Well, it's not usually the "being tired" that's stopping you from wanting sex.
There's a reason sleep is considered the new sex. I think exhaustion is very
real and a big concern for couples. No doubt, there are many times when a couple
is too tired to have sex. Generally, though, being tired shouldn't be linked to
a person's motivation to have sex (a. k. a. sexual desire).
The problem of pointing the finger of blame at being tired is that it usually
covers up for other things that have gone wrong in the bedroom: lack of
communication, buildup of resentment, boring sex . . . the list goes on and on.
It's easier for a couple to sidestep a huge argument by not opening that
Pandora's box. Agreeing that they are too tired becomes an easy answer.
In fact, many men and women have confessed that saying "I'm too tired" has
become a bad habit --they say it before they really think about whether they are
or not.
Not to rub salt in a we're-not-having-enough-sex wound, but I know plenty of
couples who have great sex lives--exhausted or not. In fact, they have more sex
when they are tired, because it's their way of relaxing and feeling good--sex
can flood the brain with wonderful feel-good endorphins, oxytocin and so on.
Instead of focusing on the symptom of being exhausted, couples need to look at
the bigger picture of how they are having sex. They also need to wrap their
heads around creating more realistic expectations about what is doable for their
present lifestyle and schedule.
Sex, like everything else in life, has its ebbs and flows. Sometimes there will
be periods of upheavals, and sex will happen just once a month. During calm
periods, however, that can increase to sex once a week (if that's the couple's
frequency preference) or more. Sometimes, albeit not often, couples will look
each other in the eyes and want to rip each other's clothes off.
It all starts with a heart-to-heart talk outside the bedroom, such as: "This is
our extremely busy situation for the next six months. What can we do sexually,
and how can we stay connected even if we aren't having as much sex as we'd
like?"
If you're truly in a busy period of your life, forcing the "sex once a week"
formula will probably cause more harm than good. Instead, focus on maintaining
intimacy outside the bedroom: touching, kissing and being nice to each other.
If you're dealing more with the daily grind of life, scheduling sex is the
easiest way for a couple to keep their sex life on the radar. It may not seem
romantic and a couple can feel like failures because they no longer have
spontaneous sex; however, chances are if they don't schedule, it's not going to
happen.
The upside to scheduling is it takes away any negative feelings about who is
going to initiate sex, and the walking around on eggshells wondering if "tonight
is the night when I'll have to have sex." Research proves couples who schedule
sex have more sex that is mutually satisfying.
So, the next time the words "I'm too tired" come out of your mouth as they
relate to sex, think about how they are affecting your sex life overall. If you
truly are too tired all the time, then maybe it's time to get some balance in
your life. After all, we can only hold our partner at arm's length for so long
before the relationship starts to suffer.
Sexologist Dr. Trina Read is an author, sex coach and international speaker. Go
to trinaread.com to sign up for free tip podcasts and read excerpts from her
latest book.
Copyright (c) Canwest News Service

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[harrisontao]

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路过

 

[flying0000]

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我和老公原来感情很好，可是40岁以后老公对性生活渐渐失去兴趣，现在基本上不主动，在我需要的时候也只是应付而已，想起来已经有3年不吻我了，为此我常常因为不被爱不被需要感到很失落。因为老公确实没有外遇，精力都扑在工作上，以前我想是工作压力大或者他的腰椎颈椎头痛等引起他性欲冷谈，所以一直温柔对他，希望有一天能好转。可是最近他说是因为感情淡了不想做爱，而且还说这样的人不少，并不妨碍婚姻的继续，还坚持不肯就医治疗，因为他觉得不是身体有病，是没了爱情，再说他也不太相信这方面的医生。我为此大哭，觉得我们的婚姻亮红灯了，可他觉得我反应过度。现在我很无助，我不愿意家庭破裂，我们白手起家，感情基础好，现在已积累了几千万的财富，孩子初中也很出色，真的很不愿我们的心越走越远，可是我看不到好转的迹象。。。。。。怎么办，好心的各位，帮帮我吧。

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[迷糊虫]

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找个情人，生命很短，不必委屈自己。

 

[jayx104]

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上帝为什么就不能把那些欲望相同的人安排在一起？

 

[harrisontao]

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D

 

[flux]

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我老公和你情况差不多，我也搞不清是什么问题。不知道他这个年龄的男人是真的性冷淡，还是只是对我冷淡。根本就想不起接吻拥抱什么的。不过就算我们在一起他年轻时最长的时间也5-10分钟结束战斗而已。后来也有人追我，就又和那个人好了，虽然在一起时间并不多，因为自己觉得这样不好，但也转移了对丈夫的注意力。那人刚开始吹嘘自己很行，后来发现那人其实战斗力也不强，他自己也承认自己不行了，也40来岁，后来就觉得男人到这年龄可能都这样。虽然那人很动情。也就没什么好奇和特大兴趣了。到现在我也不知道老公怎样，是不是心里有别人，不过也不太在乎了。

如果再有人追你，觉得你可以试试要找30岁左右的，应该精力比较旺盛。一般情况下，半年换一个比较能保持新鲜感。30岁这样的人，网上很多，都急得嗷嗷叫似的说。

 

[rosesknight]

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给楼主 3 个建议，同时一起抓：

（1）买伟哥，捣碎了拌在饭里给他吃，汗~~~
（2）你自己买个 vibrator，可以临时性的满足自己的需要.
（3）找个私家侦探，因为这种情况肯定 8 对头，有外遇的可能性在 80% 以上.

哇。我对你的敬仰犹如滔滔江水，绵延不绝。嫂子你太强了。

 

[flying0000]

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D

 

[精彩人生08]

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我们这样的情况有2-3年了，反反复复的，开始他也觉得难过，担心自己这方面退化，现在他好像接受了这样的现实，还说了几个同事朋友也是这样，说工作压力大，生活缺少激情都会这样。这一次主要他特别强调感情淡化原因，所以我才这么难过。