你边上是个奇葩， 我刚去google了， 返回来的头一个答案， 就说是两个老公，
https://www.washingtonpost.com/life...bcd77cd4e11_story.html?utm_term=.f564c0c1d8b8
Dear Civilities: My wife (female) and I are supporters of gay marriage, but we are puzzled about gay couples using the terms “wife” and “husband.” When same-sex couples marry, do they choose to be the “wife” as opposed to the “husband?”
I notice you use the term. Why not just use the term “partner” as do some heterosexuals? — Name withheld
A: Thanks for sending in this question because it’s one I’m asked fairly frequently, with a dollop of embarrassment because these monikers still aren’t that familiar. Let me attempt to clear up that confusion. Your question seems to assume that when a same-sex couple adopts “husband” and “wife” as their preferred term, they pick one apiece. That’s not the case. When two men have married, there are two husbands; for women, there are two wives. The bottom line: Don’t ask a same-sex couple who is the “husband” or the “wife.”
You’re right — I do call Jim my “husband” since we got hitched in August; for the record, he also calls me his “husband.” When we use that language, we’re signaling that we’re legally married — no longer sweethearts, boyfriends or the ambiguous “partners.”
We’re not, however, announcing gendered aspects of our relationship, as your question implies. (Still, I couldn’t help but notice that the boyfriend of
Michael Sam, the first openly gay football player to be drafted by an NFL team, was incorrectly called out by some as Sam’s “wife” and “trophy wife” on social media, highlighting the traditional stereotypes of “husband/wife” roles.)
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