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回复: 床上那点事，你在乎吗？
虎狼之年?
哈哈哈哈哈哈,开个玩笑.
LZ,你的成功,刚好反射出他的不成功,你的要求,刚好映射出他的退化.
有得有失,爱情一直都在.只是:还在不在你身边?不要骗自己什么爱情转化成亲情,爱就是爱,转什么转呀?
有些事,糊涂点也好.
说不定等你老了,退休了,儿子独立生活去了,你的工资也不高了,身体要求也不多了,自满和埋怨对你也没啥意义的时候,你老公依然在你身边--如释重负.
虎狼之年?
哈哈哈哈哈哈,开个玩笑.
LZ,你的成功,刚好反射出他的不成功,你的要求,刚好映射出他的退化.
有得有失,爱情一直都在.只是:还在不在你身边?不要骗自己什么爱情转化成亲情,爱就是爱,转什么转呀?
有些事,糊涂点也好.
说不定等你老了,退休了,儿子独立生活去了,你的工资也不高了,身体要求也不多了,自满和埋怨对你也没啥意义的时候,你老公依然在你身边--如释重负.
回复: 床上那点事，你在乎吗？
典型的中国式夫妻，你也别太介意了。说不定他都觉得是老夫老妻了，已经从爱情升华到亲情了。你要他象老外那样一回家马上亲老婆我估计不太现实的。床上点事情我觉得一个月或者几个月一次那不是问题，重要的是你还是很爱他啊！就算他外面有女人了，别忘记了他还是你孩子的爸爸呢！我觉得你太空闲了，与其疑神疑鬼不如把经历放在培养孩子身上。有钱人的家庭女的都不用做家务的工人包了，孩子家庭老师包了。所以搞了夫妻两都没什么事情做了。想想那些普通家庭说不定他们还在为买个大电视机好呢还是存钱银行好呢商量呢！别吃饱了乱想，他做运动你也可以做的，把自己的精力花在运动上，你就不想床上那点事情了。做运动还对睡眠好。
典型的中国式夫妻，你也别太介意了。说不定他都觉得是老夫老妻了，已经从爱情升华到亲情了。你要他象老外那样一回家马上亲老婆我估计不太现实的。床上点事情我觉得一个月或者几个月一次那不是问题，重要的是你还是很爱他啊！就算他外面有女人了，别忘记了他还是你孩子的爸爸呢！我觉得你太空闲了，与其疑神疑鬼不如把经历放在培养孩子身上。有钱人的家庭女的都不用做家务的工人包了，孩子家庭老师包了。所以搞了夫妻两都没什么事情做了。想想那些普通家庭说不定他们还在为买个大电视机好呢还是存钱银行好呢商量呢！别吃饱了乱想，他做运动你也可以做的，把自己的精力花在运动上，你就不想床上那点事情了。做运动还对睡眠好。
回复: 床上那点事，你在乎吗？
Are you really too tired for sex?
By Trina Read, For The Calgary Herald
StoryPhotos ( 1 )
It's not usually the "being tired" that's stopping you from wanting sex.
Photograph by: Photos.com, Is "I'm too tired" the new"I've got a headache?"
Today's average couple is always on the go and busy, some-how getting through
each day even though stretched for time, overworked and tired. It's not
surprising that being tired gets in the way of having good sex on a regular
basis--but not in the way you might think.
It's a big couple conundrum and a question I often hear: "How can we want sex
when we're always so tired?"
Well, it's not usually the "being tired" that's stopping you from wanting sex.
There's a reason sleep is considered the new sex. I think exhaustion is very
real and a big concern for couples. No doubt, there are many times when a couple
is too tired to have sex. Generally, though, being tired shouldn't be linked to
a person's motivation to have sex (a. k. a. sexual desire).
The problem of pointing the finger of blame at being tired is that it usually
covers up for other things that have gone wrong in the bedroom: lack of
communication, buildup of resentment, boring sex . . . the list goes on and on.
It's easier for a couple to sidestep a huge argument by not opening that
Pandora's box. Agreeing that they are too tired becomes an easy answer.
In fact, many men and women have confessed that saying "I'm too tired" has
become a bad habit --they say it before they really think about whether they are
or not.
Not to rub salt in a we're-not-having-enough-sex wound, but I know plenty of
couples who have great sex lives--exhausted or not. In fact, they have more sex
when they are tired, because it's their way of relaxing and feeling good--sex
can flood the brain with wonderful feel-good endorphins, oxytocin and so on.
Instead of focusing on the symptom of being exhausted, couples need to look at
the bigger picture of how they are having sex. They also need to wrap their
heads around creating more realistic expectations about what is doable for their
present lifestyle and schedule.
Sex, like everything else in life, has its ebbs and flows. Sometimes there will
be periods of upheavals, and sex will happen just once a month. During calm
periods, however, that can increase to sex once a week (if that's the couple's
frequency preference) or more. Sometimes, albeit not often, couples will look
each other in the eyes and want to rip each other's clothes off.
It all starts with a heart-to-heart talk outside the bedroom, such as: "This is
our extremely busy situation for the next six months. What can we do sexually,
and how can we stay connected even if we aren't having as much sex as we'd
like?"
If you're truly in a busy period of your life, forcing the "sex once a week"
formula will probably cause more harm than good. Instead, focus on maintaining
intimacy outside the bedroom: touching, kissing and being nice to each other.
If you're dealing more with the daily grind of life, scheduling sex is the
easiest way for a couple to keep their sex life on the radar. It may not seem
romantic and a couple can feel like failures because they no longer have
spontaneous sex; however, chances are if they don't schedule, it's not going to
happen.
The upside to scheduling is it takes away any negative feelings about who is
going to initiate sex, and the walking around on eggshells wondering if "tonight
is the night when I'll have to have sex." Research proves couples who schedule
sex have more sex that is mutually satisfying.
So, the next time the words "I'm too tired" come out of your mouth as they
relate to sex, think about how they are affecting your sex life overall. If you
truly are too tired all the time, then maybe it's time to get some balance in
your life. After all, we can only hold our partner at arm's length for so long
before the relationship starts to suffer.
Sexologist Dr. Trina Read is an author, sex coach and international speaker. Go
to trinaread.com to sign up for free tip podcasts and read excerpts from her
latest book.
Copyright (c) Canwest News Service
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Are you really too tired for sex?
By Trina Read, For The Calgary Herald
StoryPhotos ( 1 )
It's not usually the "being tired" that's stopping you from wanting sex.
Photograph by: Photos.com, Is "I'm too tired" the new"I've got a headache?"
Today's average couple is always on the go and busy, some-how getting through
each day even though stretched for time, overworked and tired. It's not
surprising that being tired gets in the way of having good sex on a regular
basis--but not in the way you might think.
It's a big couple conundrum and a question I often hear: "How can we want sex
when we're always so tired?"
Well, it's not usually the "being tired" that's stopping you from wanting sex.
There's a reason sleep is considered the new sex. I think exhaustion is very
real and a big concern for couples. No doubt, there are many times when a couple
is too tired to have sex. Generally, though, being tired shouldn't be linked to
a person's motivation to have sex (a. k. a. sexual desire).
The problem of pointing the finger of blame at being tired is that it usually
covers up for other things that have gone wrong in the bedroom: lack of
communication, buildup of resentment, boring sex . . . the list goes on and on.
It's easier for a couple to sidestep a huge argument by not opening that
Pandora's box. Agreeing that they are too tired becomes an easy answer.
In fact, many men and women have confessed that saying "I'm too tired" has
become a bad habit --they say it before they really think about whether they are
or not.
Not to rub salt in a we're-not-having-enough-sex wound, but I know plenty of
couples who have great sex lives--exhausted or not. In fact, they have more sex
when they are tired, because it's their way of relaxing and feeling good--sex
can flood the brain with wonderful feel-good endorphins, oxytocin and so on.
Instead of focusing on the symptom of being exhausted, couples need to look at
the bigger picture of how they are having sex. They also need to wrap their
heads around creating more realistic expectations about what is doable for their
present lifestyle and schedule.
Sex, like everything else in life, has its ebbs and flows. Sometimes there will
be periods of upheavals, and sex will happen just once a month. During calm
periods, however, that can increase to sex once a week (if that's the couple's
frequency preference) or more. Sometimes, albeit not often, couples will look
each other in the eyes and want to rip each other's clothes off.
It all starts with a heart-to-heart talk outside the bedroom, such as: "This is
our extremely busy situation for the next six months. What can we do sexually,
and how can we stay connected even if we aren't having as much sex as we'd
like?"
If you're truly in a busy period of your life, forcing the "sex once a week"
formula will probably cause more harm than good. Instead, focus on maintaining
intimacy outside the bedroom: touching, kissing and being nice to each other.
If you're dealing more with the daily grind of life, scheduling sex is the
easiest way for a couple to keep their sex life on the radar. It may not seem
romantic and a couple can feel like failures because they no longer have
spontaneous sex; however, chances are if they don't schedule, it's not going to
happen.
The upside to scheduling is it takes away any negative feelings about who is
going to initiate sex, and the walking around on eggshells wondering if "tonight
is the night when I'll have to have sex." Research proves couples who schedule
sex have more sex that is mutually satisfying.
So, the next time the words "I'm too tired" come out of your mouth as they
relate to sex, think about how they are affecting your sex life overall. If you
truly are too tired all the time, then maybe it's time to get some balance in
your life. After all, we can only hold our partner at arm's length for so long
before the relationship starts to suffer.
Sexologist Dr. Trina Read is an author, sex coach and international speaker. Go
to trinaread.com to sign up for free tip podcasts and read excerpts from her
latest book.
Copyright (c) Canwest News Service
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