,弄个十七八的高个子美女来给他放电试一试,保管比年轻时候精神头还足呢!有钱, 无性, 拒绝治疗...
你怎么肯定他没有外遇, 工作再忙也不会没有性欲, 颈椎病头痛更是个荒唐的借口. 感情淡了情移别恋说不定是个可怕的实事, 一方有外遇最后一个知道的永远是另一半. 还是请个私家侦探, 核实一下是否没有外遇吧.
如果他真的有了外遇你怎么办
实在郁闷,找个鸭子吧。
生活总得继续,不是吗?
虎狼之年?
哈哈哈哈哈哈,开个玩笑.
LZ,你的成功,刚好反射出他的不成功,你的要求,刚好映射出他的退化.
有得有失,爱情一直都在.只是:还在不在你身边?不要骗自己什么爱情转化成亲情,爱就是爱,转什么转呀?
有些事,糊涂点也好.
说不定等你老了,退休了,儿子独立生活去了,你的工资也不高了,身体要求也不多了,自满和埋怨对你也没啥意义的时候,你老公依然在你身边--如释重负.
Are you really too tired for sex?
By Trina Read, For The Calgary Herald
StoryPhotos ( 1 )
It's not usually the "being tired" that's stopping you from wanting sex.
Photograph by: Photos.com, Is "I'm too tired" the new"I've got a headache?"
Today's average couple is always on the go and busy, some-how getting through
each day even though stretched for time, overworked and tired. It's not
surprising that being tired gets in the way of having good sex on a regular
basis--but not in the way you might think.
It's a big couple conundrum and a question I often hear: "How can we want sex
when we're always so tired?"
Well, it's not usually the "being tired" that's stopping you from wanting sex.
There's a reason sleep is considered the new sex. I think exhaustion is very
real and a big concern for couples. No doubt, there are many times when a couple
is too tired to have sex. Generally, though, being tired shouldn't be linked to
a person's motivation to have sex (a. k. a. sexual desire).
The problem of pointing the finger of blame at being tired is that it usually
covers up for other things that have gone wrong in the bedroom: lack of
communication, buildup of resentment, boring sex . . . the list goes on and on.
It's easier for a couple to sidestep a huge argument by not opening that
Pandora's box. Agreeing that they are too tired becomes an easy answer.
In fact, many men and women have confessed that saying "I'm too tired" has
become a bad habit --they say it before they really think about whether they are
or not.
Not to rub salt in a we're-not-having-enough-sex wound, but I know plenty of
couples who have great sex lives--exhausted or not. In fact, they have more sex
when they are tired, because it's their way of relaxing and feeling good--sex
can flood the brain with wonderful feel-good endorphins, oxytocin and so on.
Instead of focusing on the symptom of being exhausted, couples need to look at
the bigger picture of how they are having sex. They also need to wrap their
heads around creating more realistic expectations about what is doable for their
present lifestyle and schedule.
Sex, like everything else in life, has its ebbs and flows. Sometimes there will
be periods of upheavals, and sex will happen just once a month. During calm
periods, however, that can increase to sex once a week (if that's the couple's
frequency preference) or more. Sometimes, albeit not often, couples will look
each other in the eyes and want to rip each other's clothes off.
It all starts with a heart-to-heart talk outside the bedroom, such as: "This is
our extremely busy situation for the next six months. What can we do sexually,
and how can we stay connected even if we aren't having as much sex as we'd
like?"
If you're truly in a busy period of your life, forcing the "sex once a week"
formula will probably cause more harm than good. Instead, focus on maintaining
intimacy outside the bedroom: touching, kissing and being nice to each other.
If you're dealing more with the daily grind of life, scheduling sex is the
easiest way for a couple to keep their sex life on the radar. It may not seem
romantic and a couple can feel like failures because they no longer have
spontaneous sex; however, chances are if they don't schedule, it's not going to
happen.
The upside to scheduling is it takes away any negative feelings about who is
going to initiate sex, and the walking around on eggshells wondering if "tonight
is the night when I'll have to have sex." Research proves couples who schedule
sex have more sex that is mutually satisfying.
So, the next time the words "I'm too tired" come out of your mouth as they
relate to sex, think about how they are affecting your sex life overall. If you
truly are too tired all the time, then maybe it's time to get some balance in
your life. After all, we can only hold our partner at arm's length for so long
before the relationship starts to suffer.
Sexologist Dr. Trina Read is an author, sex coach and international speaker. Go
to trinaread.com to sign up for free tip podcasts and read excerpts from her
latest book.
Copyright (c) Canwest News Service
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谢谢楼上几位哈~~~
一点也不稀奇,男人到了这个年龄大概是要走下坡路了,激情变亲情了,我自己的情况是老公结婚后就对性不敢兴趣,床上基本都是我主动,我也不愿意,但是有时自己本能的欲望也是逼的自己没办法,我要是不主动,他连一个手指头都不会碰我的,有一年春节,我看到他和他妈躺在床上看电视,那时老公大概是41岁,我羡慕的心都在颤抖,我想为什么老公和我就不能这样自然的在一起那,值得说明的是,老公绝对没外遇,他说他才不找那,累.到现在还是,如果我不主动,他是基本不会主动的,而且除了有性生活时会身体接触,其他时间绝对不会,比同事之间还要清爽,绝无半点淫意.我有时真觉得这种生活还过不过那,想想都20年了,还是继续下去吧,一辈子都是被打入冷宫的感觉,其实,我自己的条件也还是不错的,在这个年龄段里也是不错的了.他人不坏,我娘家有事的时候他都能出手帮忙,这让我很感激,但是我总是感觉我是我娘家派到他家的小丫鬟,伺候他,给他生孩子,他给我们家照顾,我也不知道是该离那还是不该离,我这个年龄离了也是不好找了,我刚刚办成了加拿大移民,也请大家帮我出出主意,这个问题已经折磨我很多年了,想想自己每晚孤独的入睡,好怕.
告诉你事实,你不要难过,第一,他不爱你了,对你毫无兴趣;第二,他又别的女人。就这么简单。
再告诉你一个放之四海皆准的真理:男人和你做爱,可能是爱,也可能是不爱;男人不和你做爱,那一定是不爱。
男人40没性欲?天大的笑话!那是对你没性欲了。
醒醒吧,别自己骗自己了。
哈哈!看看,有说真话的人吧!Similar problem, but with my wife!