亚洲女和洋老公的问题(让数据说话)

小葡萄

此ID已注销
本帖的目的,还是为了让亚洲熟男找到相应的觅偶战略,完全没有攻击意图。
鲁迅说,真的勇士,敢于直面惨淡的人生,正视淋漓的鲜血。华男们,面对西男的 YELLOW FEVER,应当冷静、客观、理智,认真研究数据,分析造成这一现象的客观原因,在充满竞争的社会,找到自己的位置,和有效的战略,在充满危机的时代,扭转华男面对的凶险局势,改变不可一世的命运。

另外考虑到华人网友的特点和倾向,本人需要说明,本帖和楼主的私人生活完全没有关系。楼主是标准的华人老公,满意度很高。本人推崇加拿大文化,即尊重多样性,认为没有必要只采取一种模式,没有必要向一种模式看齐。在加拿大,我们有许多选择,没必要分一个孰优孰劣。数据说明的,只是现象。
 

小葡萄

此ID已注销
这篇文章有照片,容量太大,就贴个链接吧。
http://www.npr.org/blogs/codeswitch...ested-dating-odds-favor-white-men-asian-women

数据显示,所有种族中,白人男人和亚洲女人最受欢迎,获得约会的回复率最高。数据显示,白人男人最受女人欢迎,外表并非最重要的原因;而亚洲女人被认为更像女人(主要是性格)。这个数据里面的因素,外形外表身高长相并不是最重要的,最重要的仍然是价值观、性格、品性。在美剧 THE BIG BANG THEORY里面,美女喜欢的想结婚的人,并不是高个子的帅哥(当然也不排除),而是一个有点傻劲的、体贴的聪明人,可见女人也不是光看外表。所以,这里并不是种族歧视的问题,因为一说到种族,大家都容易上火。不如就客观地看看这些男人和女人的优点,有什么可以值得学习的地方。当然了,华人也有自己的优点,问题在于是多大程度地发挥自己的优点,还是多大程度地固执地模仿传统中过时的、愚昧的地方。
 
这篇文章有照片,容量太大,就贴个链接吧。
http://www.npr.org/blogs/codeswitch...ested-dating-odds-favor-white-men-asian-women

数据显示,所有种族中,白人男人和亚洲女人最受欢迎,获得约会的回复率最高。数据显示,白人男人最受女人欢迎,外表并非最重要的原因;而亚洲女人被认为更像女人(主要是性格)。这个数据里面的因素,外形外表身高长相并不是最重要的,最重要的仍然是价值观、性格、品性。在美剧 THE BIG BANG THEORY里面,美女喜欢的想结婚的人,并不是高个子的帅哥(当然也不排除),而是一个有点傻劲的、体贴的聪明人,可见女人也不是光看外表。所以,这里并不是种族歧视的问题,因为一说到种族,大家都容易上火。不如就客观地看看这些男人和女人的优点,有什么可以值得学习的地方。当然了,华人也有自己的优点,问题在于是多大程度地发挥自己的优点,还是多大程度地固执地模仿传统中过时的、和愚昧的地方。
bullshit
 

小葡萄

此ID已注销
这篇文章,是一个西男写的,他说西男最受不了的是女人胖,一旦女人胖了,再漂亮也很难让人接受,一旦瘦了,长得眼睛小一点也无所谓。

The Dating Success Of Asian Women Is Due To White Obesity
By Sam.G
One interesting effect of the obesity epidemic has been an increase in the desirability of Asian women. Thirty years ago, nailing an Asian chick was a consolation prize for a white guy who struck out with his own kind. Indeed, in 1980 interracial marriage was fairly rare in the United States, with only 7% of all marriages occurring between people of different races. Nowadays, the intermarriage rate is 15% overall, but it is 36% among Asian females.

When Caucasian men marry Asian women, the couple is twice as likely to both be college educated and will make on average 20% more money than a white-white couple. Sociologists talk about all sorts of possible explanations: the desire of Asians to assimilate, the increasing acceptance of interracial marriage, the sexualization of Asian women as docile and subservient, the smaller penises of Asian men. All these explanations are probably wrong. I’m reminded of an old joke which explains the phenomenon of Asian women marrying white guys: Why does a dog lick its genitals? Because it can.

Thin Asian Girls are Upwardly Mobile
In our society, whites are at the top of the social ladder and people naturally want to marry up. In the past, when there were many fewer overweight white women, a man would just marry a thin white girl. Nowadays there are so few thin white females that men must look elsewhere. Because Asian women are substantially thinner than their white counterparts, it is only natural that their overall desirability would increase.

More importantly, when considering marriage, men have two great fears. First, that their wife will stop having sex with them and second, that their wife will get fat. Because even slightly overweight young white women are seen as likely to gain enormous amounts of weight during their childbearing years, a stick-thin Asian woman is even more desirable. The presence of many thin older Asian females in the population is evidence of the wise choice of marrying a young, thin Asian female. Look at any large group of 50-year-old women of different ethnicities. Among African-Americans, 90% will be obese, among the whites, probably 75%, but among the Asians, easily half are still thin.

Asian Women Have Become Popular… And Picky

Even ten years ago, I found that it was comparatively easy to date an Asian woman or get her to respond to me online. But now, they are becoming more selective. The nation’s white guys have figured out that the biggest risk to a lifetime of marital happiness is a fat wife, and the best mitigating strategy is to marry an Asian.

Some men will argue that it is not just thinness, but better personalities which are driving the increase in white-Asian couples. This may be true, and certainly my own anecdotal experience is that attractive Asian women, especially foreign-born, are more likely to exhibit wifely behavior than pretty American white girls, but without being thin, these Asians would not get much attention.

Another possible explanation is that there are substantial numbers of Asian women who have little to no interest in Asian men. I often hear this from Asian chicks, but I’ve heard the same from black women as well about black men. It takes white guys wanting to date Asian ladies to make this sort of coupling happen. Still, the fact that many Asian women don’t want to date Asian men does propel Asian girls into the white dating sphere.

Of course, some men have a negative view of Asian women and Asian culture generally. However, one should be cautious not to indict two billion women on the basis of two crazy psycho Asian ex-girlfriends. Casting aspersions on Asian women this way is relying on anecdote. Casting aspersions on white women who are three times more likely to be fat than Asians is relying on science.

Water Seeks its Own Level

This notion of non-whites marrying up and out of their ethnicity on the basis of a thin body was demonstrated to me dramatically when I was in an elevator at an area mall. In this case, the foreign ethnicity of interest was from India, but the principle was the same. In the elevator were two couples who did not know each other. The first couple consisted of a big, tall, fat, nerdy, doofus of a white guy with his slender, pretty Indian girlfriend. She was just all over him. Then another couple got on. He was a fit, nice looking guy from India with his fat, dweebish, unappealing white girlfriend. In virtually any other time in history, the white people would not be fat and they would be dating each other. Likewise for the Indians. But now with the obesity epidemic, everything had changed.

Although obesity has afflicted both genders equally, it has a strikingly disparate effect on dating desirability—only mildly hurting men but being absolutely drastic to women. Therefore, the fat white guy made the obvious and correct choice. Since there are so few thin white girls, he dated a thin Indian girl instead. The handsome fit guy from India, on the other hand, gains only a small advantage by not being fat. Since white guys are poaching the thin women of his ethnicity, he concludes that since he must date a fat girl, at least he’ll date a fat white chick.

One Asian Girlfriend Begets Another

The rise of Asian women functions like a positive feedback loop. As more white guys find they can’t date a thin white girl, they decide to branch out and try an Asian. Soon, they discover that Asian women make excellent romantic partners. Certainly there are trashy, slutty Asian girls, quite similar to the white club chicks who are often derided in the manosphere, but generally speaking, Asian women are of high quality, with strong sex drives, nice bodies, clean, top-notch pussies, intelligent minds, and good values when it comes to long-term relationships.

There are many men like me who initially did not pursue Asian women very much, but in the search for a girlfriend with a normal body, ended up dating someone Asian and realized how rewarding the relationship can be. As more men have that sort of positive experience, it heightens their interest in future romances with Asians. Also, when you’re in a long-term relationship, you begin to forget about your partner’s ethnicity. You see your girlfriend as a specific individual, someone you love and care about, not as a member of any particular ethnic group. But if you are dating a fat chick, you never forget that she is fat.

This trend will only continue. With more white-Asian couples out there serving as role models, most of them college educated and upper-middle class, many young men will see this as a way out of the obesity epidemic that plagues their romantic lives. Asian women used to struggle with a dating disadvantage because of their ethnic features. Their eyes looked too narrow to white men, but almost no one talks about that anymore. When I was growing up, you heard lots of private jokes about funny accents and slanty eyes, but now, behind closed doors, the talk about Asian women is how much skinnier they are than the white chicks. Notes to Asian females: (1) Do not adopt our poisonous American diet, and (2) No one cares about the eyes any more. Save your money and don’t get plastic surgery. We’re looking at your thin waist and your little butt.
Photo Gallery

A man with 1 billion friends and $30 billion net worth married this Asian physician.
This Academy Award Winner Married a Young Asian Woman
Laura Ling, a journalist and UCLA graduate was imprisoned briefly in North Korea. Pictured here with her husband Iain Clayton who works in finance. He is smiling because he got his thin Asian wife back.
Rupert Murdoch (net worth $13 billion) has been married to this Asian lady for 12 years and they have two children. Money is a powerful aphrodisiac.
These not so rich and famous couples all met on Match.com.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/finance/newsbysector/mediatechnologyandtelecoms/media/9277711/Facebook-founder-Mark-Zuckerberg-marries-one-day-after-104bn-IPO.html
 

小葡萄

此ID已注销
温哥华四年有五起家暴凶杀案,两起是华男砍死老婆,两起是砍死老妈。当然了这是少数,但你说这是加分还是减分?华人的交友、婚姻中最大的问题就是不平等,三妻四妾包二奶,就是不平等,这种人不可能获得爱情,只能买来纵欲,因为爱情的前提就是平等。
 

小葡萄

此ID已注销
这是一个香蕉人,北美长大的亚洲男写的。

Are Asian Men Undateable?

upload_2014-5-19_16-50-37.pngBy Justin Chan November 20, 2013
The online dating website "Are You Interested" recently surveyed more than 2.4 million interactions on its site and confirmed what many of us suspect: America loves Asian women.

In fact, Asian female users are more likely to get messages, including inappropriate ones, from male users of any race other than Asian. This trend, popularly dubbed "yellow fever," is not a new phenomenon, springing instead from an attraction to what some observers say is the exotic appeal of Asian women, and a self-indulging fantasy of being with women who are seen as docile and submissive.

While Asian women seem to be in high demand, Asian men do not. Asian female and non-Asian male pairings are seen to be common, but Asian men are often left out of the discussion over interracial relationships entirely. As one of my black female friends put it, "Asian men, along with black women, are probably the least desirable people."
A 2007 study conducted by researchers at Columbia University, which surveyed a group of over 400 students who participated orchestrated "speed dating" sessions, showed that African-American and white women said "yes" 65% less often to the prospect of dating Asian men in comparison of men of their own race, while Hispanic women said yes 50% less frequently. Though Asian-Americans still date and marry each other, cultural stereotypes of Asian men may make them less attractive to women of all races, including Asians.

Despite iconic masculine Asian role models like Bruce Lee(李小龙), Asian men are often portrayed as scrawny males who spend more time studying than lifting weights in the gym, appearing in popular culture as soft-spoken, reserved types who rarely take part in activities that people qualify as "masculine" like professional football or construction work, as characters played for laughs.

These depictions run counter to what society tells us women want: someone confident, tall, dark and handsome.

"Women think we have a masculinity that's maligned and marginalized," said my friend Jubin Kwon, a Korean-American who grew up in the predominantly white town of Lexington, Mass. "There's also this idea of relative invisibility, but that applies to all Asian-Americans."
Given the constant stereotyping Asian-American men face in the media, Asian-American men approaching non-Asian women often either feel an unnecessary burden to prove themselves against Asian stereotypes or keep to themselves in fear of rejection. The agonizing paralysis of self-doubt is well captured by John Shim, who wrote a telling piece for The Daily Bruin in 2002, lamenting "I feel cheated out of a myriad of romantic experiences that could have been brought to fruition were I not an Asian male."

Growing up, I felt the same way. Part of me believed that I had no chance with non-Asian women because our cultural differences were too apparent. The other part was simply a lack of self-confidence. I rarely had the courage to express my feelings because I was too worried about the what-ifs.

What if non-Asian women simply had no interest in Asian men? What if they thought I was a nerd with poor social skills? What if they rejected me?

Over time, I forced myself to look past the stigmas that defined Asian males and worked to counter them. It paid off slowly but surely.

For some, the anxiety over being an Asian male that I once harbored can seem like an overreaction. "For me, there is no pressure [in asking a non-Asian woman out]," said my friend Anthony Ma, whose ex-girlfriend was Mexican. "But if you're from a very traditional Asian household, there might be some."

Even for those who share Ma's confidence, the sad truth is that the media continues to perpetuate the emasculated Asian male stereotype. To some, we are quiet or asexual. To others, we're less manly than our white, black and Hispanic counterparts. The consensus seems to be that Asian men have nothing going for them. "While growing up in a homogeneous white town, it was a standard perception that Asian men just weren't attractive," Sarah Shaw acknowledged in a post for Mapping Words earlier this year.
Whether this line of thought will change depends on the media's openness to promote more traditionally or differentially masculine Asian figures, and the willingness of Asian men to tackle existing media stereotypes of us head-on. As long as characters like Short Round continue to exist, Asian males will always have to confront issues regarding their masculinity.
 

哆啦A梦

Guest
其他华男不知道,家园有几位,除了整天围着年老色未衰的大娘们转,似乎就没什么存在形式了!:wdb1::wdb6:
 

哆啦A梦

Guest
我觉得最关键的还是传统、性格、价值观。
如果你拥有平等的观念,积极的价值观和一定的自信,就不难成为一个可爱的人。
严以律己,宽以待人!否则,就是扯淡!:wdb23:
 

哆啦A梦

Guest
这种文章看看挺解闷的,哈哈!倒是也有些道理。反正姐就特迷姐夫,姐夫就特迷姐!:wdb6:
 

哆啦A梦

Guest
小葡萄,你快别误导了!网络的东西又不是科学研究或者圣经,还真当金科玉律来使?!据姐了解,很多亚洲女人嫁给白男还是苦逼的很,特别语言差没法沟通,自己又没能力的。事实就是事实,哈!:wdb4:
 

注册或登录来发表评论

您必须是注册会员才可以发表评论

注册帐号

注册帐号. 太容易了!

登录

已有帐号? 在这里登录.

Similar threads

顶部