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先生办完后事回来,满脸疲惫。沉默了两天才开始愿意多说话。

他的家就在珠江口上的南沙,以前每到夏天,我们都很喜欢回去度暑。

这次他回去,家的附近通了地铁,家的四周都盖着五到六层的私人新楼房,每家每户都抢着盖房子,有多豪华盖多豪华,酷热的天气,每家每户都开着大功率的冷气机,用热火朝天来形容整个新貌,他感觉很贴切。他每天都要洗几次冷水澡,才能稍微感觉舒服些。而且那个家,他已经不适应那个气候了。

和同学一聚,他们厚重的资产和繁忙的生活,反衬起我们在这里简单的生活,我先生都很感慨。很让我先生奇怪的是,他们尽管很优越,却都有兴趣和向往国外的生活。他们口中谈论的多是,做了什么项目,接了什么生意;而我先生说的是,如何陪伴孩子玩,如何把弄后院的菜地。

先生说,他这次回去后反而更珍惜和更喜欢目前的生活状态。我调侃他说,这是因为他们坐的是商务舱,而我们还在经济舱。
 
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看样子ABC这个夏天也没能带领全家老小回国省亲,而只是先生自行回去一趟了。
 

泠泠67

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先生办完后事回来,满脸疲惫。沉默了两天才开始愿意多说话。

他的家就在珠江口上的南沙,以前每到夏天,我们都很喜欢回去度暑。

这次他回去,家的附近通了地铁,家的四周都盖着五到六层的私人新楼房,每家每户都抢着盖房子,有多豪华盖多豪华,酷热的天气,每家每户都开着大功率的冷气机,用热火朝天来形容整个新貌,他感觉很贴切。他每天都要洗几次冷水澡,才能稍微感觉舒服些。而且那个家,他已经不适应那个气候了。

和同学一聚,他们厚重的资产和繁忙的生活,反衬起我们在这里简单的生活,我先生都很感慨。很让我先生奇怪的是,他们尽管很优越,却都有兴趣和向往国外的生活。他们口中谈论的多是,做了什么项目,接了什么生意;而我先生说的是,如何陪伴孩子玩,如何把弄后院的菜地。

先生说,他这次回去后反而更珍惜和更喜欢目前的生活状态。我调侃他说,这是因为他们坐的是商务舱,而我们还在经济舱。
我刚从珠海,广州和自己的家乡黑龙江省回来.回国转了这么20多天,还是感觉卡尔加里好.
今年南方很热,我也不适应那种热,天天只愿呆在空调房里.出去就难受,闷热的天气,好象能让人窒息;北方虽然在这个季节凉快了一点,和卡城的气候很相似.但是回去就过敏,感冒到现在也没彻底好.
国内的交通更发达,气派的大楼越来越多,但是空气中的粉尘越来越厚,人们的焦灼感并没有减轻。回去一次就感觉特别的累。
还是卡城轻松的生活,适宜的气候适应居住。
 
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看样子ABC这个夏天也没能带领全家老小回国省亲,而只是先生自行回去一趟了。

是呀,很可惜,主要是家乡有个例规,夫家有人去世了,就不能回娘家一段时间。:wdb2::wdb7:

现在计划明年一定要回去一趟,否则也真的太长时间了。:wdb26:
 
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我刚从珠海,广州和自己的家乡黑龙江省回来.回国转了这么20多天,还是感觉卡尔加里好.
今年南方很热,我也不适应那种热,天天只愿呆在空调房里.出去就难受,闷热的天气,好象能让人窒息;北方虽然在这个季节凉快了一点,和卡城的气候很相似.但是回去就过敏,感冒到现在也没彻底好.
国内的交通更发达,气派的大楼越来越多,但是空气中的粉尘越来越厚,人们的焦灼感并没有减轻。回去一次就感觉特别的累。
还是卡城轻松的生活,适宜的气候适应居住。

哇, 泠泠你也真是走南闯北呀。

卡尔加里的天气和温度,我真是非常喜欢。估计是以前热烦了。

最近工作忙得很,是个好现象。特别商业险要求报价数量在上升,但是很多保险公司却在变得更谨慎,只有一家非常积极,也非常饥渴地争取业务, 这家,我估计因为刚刚收购了一个竞争对手,所以胃口大开,很正常。

我现在发现自己越来越喜欢这个经纪工作了,主要是挑战越来越多,商业险的知识积累要求更广泛和更专业,每天都在不断学到新的东西,会见新行业的人士,有成为客户的,成为朋友的,也有再也不会回头的。

看来,我呀,还是改不掉。:wdb5:
 
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当初接纳这个客户的时候, 老板就提醒我,这个女CEO不好惹。 我当时就以为,贵为一个组织的头,应该不会差到哪里去吧。

今天一早她就电话告诉我,她车子被撞了,后车盖凹进去了一些,于是我就按程序收集了所有的信息,立即传真给保险公司理赔部,同时我告诉她一般24小时内,理赔员会联系她。

传真刚刚完成,她就打电话来说,24小时对她来说太长了,她必须立即就要修车。我告诉她,需要给时间让理赔部录入资料,并分配理赔员联系她,然后她可以选择就近的指定车行修车。

她说,不,她现在就要出去约修车事宜。她忍受不了开着一辆有缺陷的车, 必须租车开。

实际上,这种行为在我们看来是想占队,本来每个人都按着程序在等候,如果没有什么重大急需立即解决的情况,每个人都要轮候。她却想规避这种轮候,这些行为在很多高职人群中还是很少见的。

她仍然坚持和无理轮候。于是我跟理赔部的经理沟通后,赶紧为她做了修车安排。
 

xiuhong

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是呀,很可惜,主要是家乡有个例规,夫家有人去世了,就不能回娘家一段时间。:wdb2::wdb7:

:wdb1: 苦了你了,又当妈又当爸爸。
 
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我把以下的发言稿打印出来给了女儿。 昨天知道消息的一下那,心很痛,很痛。

虽然知道这只是迟早的事实,但是当这一天真的来到的时候,大脑就像突然严重缺氧般短路。

Stanford Report, June 14, 2005 'You've got to find what you love,' Jobs says

This is a prepared text of the Commencement address delivered by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, on June 12, 2005.


I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I've ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just three stories.

The first story is about connecting the dots.

I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?

It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: "We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?" They said: "Of course." My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.
And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents' savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn't see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn't interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.

It wasn't all romantic. I didn't have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends' rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5 deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:
Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn't have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can't capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, it's likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.
Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

My second story is about love and loss.

I was lucky I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation the Macintosh a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.
I really didn't know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down - that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.
I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.

I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.

My third story is about death.

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn't even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor's code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you'd have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.

I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I'm fine now.

This was the closest I've been to facing death, and I hope it's the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960's, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.

Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: "Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish." It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

Thank you all very much.
 
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今天被老板叫进了他的办公室

“你不要忘记,你是经理级别了,在公司内,尽量说英语,好吗?”

我一时没有反应过来,不知道他所指何事。哦,想起来了,就是昨天下班后,准备离开办公室的时候,和另外一名同胞同事很兴奋地讨论起如何包饺子,声音好像比较大,凑巧,老板从我们身边走过去,他当时看到我们的兴奋样子显得很凝重一样。

估计是他听不懂我们在嚷什么。毕竟还是在公司场合,哪怕下班后,也还是不能蹦出我们的舒服的中文交流。

我答应他说,好的,我以后注意。
 
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他们一家5年前投资移民到了加拿大,男主人算是我们南方金融界的一个人物。当时在卡尔加里遇到他,很佩服他能放弃国内的一切公职,来到卡城创业开了个小公司。

他当时就很坦然地告诉我,不用佩服,我只是呆不下去,逃出来而已啦。

在卡城创业期间,他雇请了几位西人销售,准备通过他们来打开本土市场。很可惜,公司只是维持了九个月,就不得不终止了。

于是,半年前,他还是忍不住飞回国内,说是因为国内自己还有一个很大的白酒生产工厂,因为要搬迁,必须亲自回去张罗。

昨天,我去他家里见他,他准备就每半年回来一两个月,看孩子,老婆。他胖了很多,满脸春风的。

他说,胖了是因为地沟油吃多了,这次回国要托运一些橄榄油回国送人情。

我知道目前在国内,他公司生产的那个白酒品牌卖得也很贵,问他,真的值得那个价钱吗?

他笑着说,你可不能便宜呀,否则就破坏行规啦。

“现在国内越是高层次的人,越是烟酒不沾,越是层次低的,就是烟酒不离手。 没有办法,经常要接触那些层次低的人。否则,你是搭不上高层次的人的。 我们这一代是牺牲的一代。 孩子,老婆在这里,可以算是把牺牲减少些。”

他家算是坐落在卡城的豪宅区,但是因为常年少了男主人的身影,让我感觉很萧条。
 
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ABCGROUP,佩服你的坚持,回来看看你.我还在路上,迷茫到底移不移,如果移到哪个城市落脚,最关键如何谋生

在路上也不错呀,起码观望的心态总比受苦舒服多了。

至于你说的谋生,我感觉无论在国内还是在加拿大,都是每天面对的事情,所以,那里都一样。反而,加拿大容易些,因为来到这里,脱下面具,退掉身份,多脏多累的活都可以干,为了谋生。

今天早上,一个中国留学生来到我办公室,要办他的第一份汽车保险,办完手续后,他很有兴趣地问起我保险行业的事情,我们就聊开了。

他说,我就不喜欢我爸爸的工作,在国内,算是一份高风险的工作。

什么工作在他眼里是高风险呢?

一名高官,可惜不是中央局级的,只是地方的而已,所以风险才高。他说。

我很惊讶,这个二十岁的小男孩,居然有这么成熟的论调。

我爸爸正派,老实,他真的希望有个安稳的退休生活,因为现在在任,没有一天是安稳的。我为了不多要他的钱,我现在也在打一份现金工。很累,但是我感觉我的工作比老爸舒服多了。所以我才要一台车。

你看,我就用我第一个月的收入买了这台IPHONE4S。 同学都以为我爸爸送给我的。我也不解释,懒得解释。说了他们也不信。

这个男孩算是官二代里比较另类的,或者可以说,是我希望看到的那一种人。

他离开前,跟我说,努力谋生,也是一种乐趣呀,我都没感到辛苦。
 

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