We have to work hard but we don't feel sad. We do want to encourage LZ, but we didn't hide anything.
When a woman is independant, having a good job with good money, she should feel confident, why feel sad? Why it's worse for kids?
If it's not for LZ, I wouldn't want to share my story here, I don't like to tell some people that I am divorced. Because some people like to assume something that might not be true but they believe that is the case.
It's said "zi fei yu,yan zhi yu?" That's why I would like to share my story with LZ, since I have simillar back ground as LZ. Just take it as an example, only LZ knows who she is, what she can do.
Imagination dosen't really help in this case.
Anyways, we are not born to be strong, we are strong just because we are moms. Being happy or not is an attitude, a feeling that you can choose. There is no such equation: single mom=unhappy