这个马大哈，在家上班，忘了拿公司的电脑。
- 主题发起人 shw019
- 发布时间 2018-11-09
最近学了个新词儿unconsicous，说是说新词儿，其实是明白了更深层的意思。现在除了说subconscious，经常看到unconscious. 我觉得这两者之间的意思差不多。我现在学英语都集中在自己的专业领域，生命有限。
我觉得这个词儿值得深思，就顺手写了一篇鸡汤，留个纪念。读这篇鸡汤，要先看图片，图片是老师给的。我特喜欢根据她的理论作进一步的思考。有点像给个命题写作文那样。
No acceptance, No change
Victims do exist. The transformation from being a victim to a victor start from understanding, acceptance and healing. The “Unconscious” means habitual behavior or old patterns. We need to find new choices, create new experiences and feelings and build up new patterns before letting go the old patterns. People stick to the old patterns because they have no other choices. The only choice they have is the survival mode. Anything survivable is worth repeating. It takes time and opportunities to re-wire our brain. When it comes to dealing with wounded people, Having empathy or understanding doesn’t mean that we don’t need to set boundaries. It only means we have a choice not to react, participate, engage or get absorbed in their flashbacks or wounded behaviors. There is a choice to step back and look at the situation as an observer, instead of getting involved and hurt yourself. If the wounded person has his/her normal time and healthy behaviors. They are more likely to behave badly under stress. it means their wounded behaviors come from the wound and old patterns. Do not get absorbed and react. Instead, build up awareness and tell yourself: this is a flashback or wounded reaction. It’s NOT about you. You don’t need to be responsible for this flashback or wounded reaction. If you can’t calm down the wounded person, don’t upgrade it by participating in the argument and trigger your own wound. Don’t ask them to shut up. Allow them to express, guide them to express in a gentle way, hug is very helpful. If you are scared and don’t know what to do, just keep quiet and let the wounded person to express and finish his/her drama. Talk and comfort him/her when the drama is over and they wake up. Help them to build up awareness around flashback or wounded experiences. Building awareness is the first step of healing. Instead of good or bad judgement, notice it is a flashback or wounded reaction. It’s the inner child crying for understanding, acceptance and healing. Any change happens only after acceptance. No acceptance, no change.
我觉得这个词儿值得深思，就顺手写了一篇鸡汤，留个纪念。读这篇鸡汤，要先看图片，图片是老师给的。我特喜欢根据她的理论作进一步的思考。有点像给个命题写作文那样。
No acceptance, No change
Victims do exist. The transformation from being a victim to a victor start from understanding, acceptance and healing. The “Unconscious” means habitual behavior or old patterns. We need to find new choices, create new experiences and feelings and build up new patterns before letting go the old patterns. People stick to the old patterns because they have no other choices. The only choice they have is the survival mode. Anything survivable is worth repeating. It takes time and opportunities to re-wire our brain. When it comes to dealing with wounded people, Having empathy or understanding doesn’t mean that we don’t need to set boundaries. It only means we have a choice not to react, participate, engage or get absorbed in their flashbacks or wounded behaviors. There is a choice to step back and look at the situation as an observer, instead of getting involved and hurt yourself. If the wounded person has his/her normal time and healthy behaviors. They are more likely to behave badly under stress. it means their wounded behaviors come from the wound and old patterns. Do not get absorbed and react. Instead, build up awareness and tell yourself: this is a flashback or wounded reaction. It’s NOT about you. You don’t need to be responsible for this flashback or wounded reaction. If you can’t calm down the wounded person, don’t upgrade it by participating in the argument and trigger your own wound. Don’t ask them to shut up. Allow them to express, guide them to express in a gentle way, hug is very helpful. If you are scared and don’t know what to do, just keep quiet and let the wounded person to express and finish his/her drama. Talk and comfort him/her when the drama is over and they wake up. Help them to build up awareness around flashback or wounded experiences. Building awareness is the first step of healing. Instead of good or bad judgement, notice it is a flashback or wounded reaction. It’s the inner child crying for understanding, acceptance and healing. Any change happens only after acceptance. No acceptance, no change.
最后编辑: 2019-05-08
Mastering attention is a great challenge.
A holistic psychologist said that True power is the ability to master your attention. I agree.
True power is internal. It’s a mastering of attention. Attention is one of the greatest assets we have. Where we place it creates energy. The focus of our attention manifest physically. The ability to consciously choose where we place our attention shifts us From reacting to the ability to respond. In short it’s leaving habit for choice. understanding that not everything requires our attention or our response is confidence.
If we are unconscious, we can’t focus our attention. We aren’t even aware that we have choice. Most of the time we are driven by the subconscious mind without growing or personal development. We spend so much time just repeating the old pattern that we learned in the past. The lack of attention is so familiar and in some severe cases it is labeled as ADD. We react to every single thing that comes into our environment. That new story, gossip, the text message, the latest cultural drama. We’re placing our energy on anything that we see. Which means our energy is distributed to the unimportant things rather than focusing on the important things or our deepest desires. After time we feel shameful. We label ourselves lazy, or unmotivated. The reality is we haven’t practiced focusing our attention. Once we practice it we may find it’s not as hard as we think.
The three most powerful tools for mastering attention are: meditation, fitness, and journaling. Each of these things bring up mental resistance. Every single time you get past this mental resistance you worked your attention muscle. The more practice, the stronger the muscle. With time and commitment this will shift every aspect of your life. This is mental fitness.
As a master health and life coach I believe there’s something more interesting and powerful than will power. You have a choice not to fight with mental resistance. Or you can treat it as a game. The mental resistance is just your competitor and you are wired to win the game. And you don’t need to practice all of the 3 tools at one time. You can just pick one thing that you are most interested in, curious or feel comfortable with. Start from one small step like journaling or running( or any pleasurable movement) for a very short period of time. Create some brand new experiences with good feelings. The better you feel the more likely you’re going to do it again. Every action has chain reactions or ripple effect that is irresistible. Once you work toward the positive power you are not going to stop. You just need to start the engine by taking one small step. Start journaling or running ( or any pleasurable movement ) today focusing on what’s going well and what things you have done as you wanted. What good decisions you have made in your life. Be curious, See what will happen next.
A holistic psychologist said that True power is the ability to master your attention. I agree.
True power is internal. It’s a mastering of attention. Attention is one of the greatest assets we have. Where we place it creates energy. The focus of our attention manifest physically. The ability to consciously choose where we place our attention shifts us From reacting to the ability to respond. In short it’s leaving habit for choice. understanding that not everything requires our attention or our response is confidence.
If we are unconscious, we can’t focus our attention. We aren’t even aware that we have choice. Most of the time we are driven by the subconscious mind without growing or personal development. We spend so much time just repeating the old pattern that we learned in the past. The lack of attention is so familiar and in some severe cases it is labeled as ADD. We react to every single thing that comes into our environment. That new story, gossip, the text message, the latest cultural drama. We’re placing our energy on anything that we see. Which means our energy is distributed to the unimportant things rather than focusing on the important things or our deepest desires. After time we feel shameful. We label ourselves lazy, or unmotivated. The reality is we haven’t practiced focusing our attention. Once we practice it we may find it’s not as hard as we think.
The three most powerful tools for mastering attention are: meditation, fitness, and journaling. Each of these things bring up mental resistance. Every single time you get past this mental resistance you worked your attention muscle. The more practice, the stronger the muscle. With time and commitment this will shift every aspect of your life. This is mental fitness.
As a master health and life coach I believe there’s something more interesting and powerful than will power. You have a choice not to fight with mental resistance. Or you can treat it as a game. The mental resistance is just your competitor and you are wired to win the game. And you don’t need to practice all of the 3 tools at one time. You can just pick one thing that you are most interested in, curious or feel comfortable with. Start from one small step like journaling or running( or any pleasurable movement) for a very short period of time. Create some brand new experiences with good feelings. The better you feel the more likely you’re going to do it again. Every action has chain reactions or ripple effect that is irresistible. Once you work toward the positive power you are not going to stop. You just need to start the engine by taking one small step. Start journaling or running ( or any pleasurable movement ) today focusing on what’s going well and what things you have done as you wanted. What good decisions you have made in your life. Be curious, See what will happen next.
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小葡萄说中国话也特罗嗦
上海博物馆，原来文字有一点啰嗦，我们在新的改建过程中，提出的标识文字建议。。。。当然，应该采用public，这样老外更懂。不过我们更多的政治考虑。。。文字中外同理。。这是刚来加拿大，移民中心让写的。。请提意见。
A journey with imagination
If a place makes you to ignore or conceal desires , swallow and suppress ideas, hide beliefs, stand in the shadow of who, if a city reminds you often of paying attention to unfair child education ,worrying about food safety daily and smog fog in the next time, then the desire to leave is constant, but why Canada? Because, on any person who desires this kind of leaving, Canada will bestow the gift of lucky charm with multichoice, my family among the others is only one of winners for this kind of choices in 2014.
And the person like us, with some kind of dusting background first landing the soil of Canada, we always like to say that this is the land of blue sky with fresh air which in some sense could been identified as parades on the earth according to the sayings of MR.DUPLESSIS who claimed Le ciel est bleu; l'enfer est rouge. of which is making me certainly a little bit confused unless I can find further explanation through personal exploration in the field of theology later on.
So this longest journey ,we have made so far, is just beginning, it is not from the physical experience of having made it that we know how very great the distance is, but social and cultural from very beginning, after our landing in 2014 as new immigrants . Just like the winter is always waiting time in Canada, for the spring flowers blossom, or the girl name of hurricane. We also would wish, not only us ,but to all others, to become a fully acculturate citizens of a country soon or later，not as foreign to my some new friends as China .
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A journey with imagination
If a place makes you to ignore or conceal desires , swallow and suppress ideas, hide beliefs, stand in the shadow of who, if a city reminds you often of paying attention to unfair child education ,worrying about food safety daily and smog fog in the next time, then the desire to leave is constant, but why Canada? Because, on any person who desires this kind of leaving, Canada will bestow the gift of lucky charm with multichoice, my family among the others is only one of winners for this kind of choices in 2014.
And the person like us, with some kind of dusting background first landing the soil of Canada, we always like to say that this is the land of blue sky with fresh air which in some sense could been identified as parades on the earth according to the sayings of MR.DUPLESSIS who claimed Le ciel est bleu; l'enfer est rouge. of which is making me certainly a little bit confused unless I can find further explanation through personal exploration in the field of theology later on.
So this longest journey ,we have made so far, is just beginning, it is not from the physical experience of having made it that we know how very great the distance is, but social and cultural from very beginning, after our landing in 2014 as new immigrants . Just like the winter is always waiting time in Canada, for the spring flowers blossom, or the girl name of hurricane. We also would wish, not only us ,but to all others, to become a fully acculturate citizens of a country soon or later，not as foreign to my some new friends as China .
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