回复: 6岁到19岁，回忆我的移民路
你好，有些情况想向你咨询一下，我的儿子今年十三岁，女儿7岁，顺利的话明年夏天就可以登陆，先说说儿子吧，学习一般，凡是死记硬背的功课就很讨厌，尤其是英语很差，但他画画很好，最喜欢画漫画，喜欢摄影，喜欢打篮球，喜欢魔术，但这些在我们家长眼里总是有点不务正业。由于英语不好，不知道到加拿大上中学能不能跟上功课，我就怕他上课听不懂然后就再完全不学了。像他这样的孩子需要大概多长时间才能适应和融入学校的课程当中？女儿我倒不用担心，性格活泼，学习一直很好，上的是双语学校，应该会很快地适应新的生活。请楼主姑娘帮我分析一下。谢谢了
As I said in my earlier posts, my computer can't type Chinese lately so please excuse my replies in English.
Your son is too young to "dislike" a certain type of learning and exclusively pursue interests like photography, art, and basketball. These things are great to have as hobbies that enrich his regular curriculum. As a parent, I don't think you should make excuses for him or for yourself about how he learns and what he learns. As appalling as the standard Canadian or Chinese curriculum is, it is still developed to give the child a broad knowledge base for future advancements in academia. You should be taking the time to guide him to help him develop better studying skills. Learning will always be a certain extent about familiarity of knowledge, memorization, and then, after all that, logic.
Speaking more specifically about learning English, with the large number of immigrants in Canada, your son can effortlessly avoid all social needs to speak English at school and spend his years in ESL. As a parent, you have to be proactive about his language learning and advancement. If he doesn't want to sit down and spend the time to read, to write, to memorize, and to practice, it is your job and responsibility as a parent and guardian of a minor to provide that guidance for him.
I think an option for your family, other than the traditional language learning methods discussed by parents on this board, would be to approach language learning through his areas of interest, either through rewards or direct involvement. You may seek to involve him in basketball camp
我认为只要是孩子认真思考过，所做的决定都应该支持。什么都不能说绝对的对与错。每个选择都有它的利弊，问问自己的内心，她会告诉你怎么做，不会后悔。
